Hey...Anurag..Do clear the mails, Do revert by EOD.. I need this anyhow...Get the team aligned for same....& the monotony never breaks, so do our answers, which are like Yes sir.. will do sir..will definitely get it done sir...all falling right in place for the predator who has invoked a prey in us, who has surrendered himself to being a docile YES MAN...yes, docile the word used for animals with no brains & we have given our each bit to match their levels, this boss- junior above quote is just one off example & it invariably goes with us in many facets of life where our self inertia falls too much to get aligned to outer world, the acceptance they will give us becomes our sole motto to live our lives on happy note. Be it friends, relatives or it can be anyone around, whom we have silently given a status above us
We just are not able to say "NO" to them, may be as it does not come naturally to us to say this, as we are good good person, but who decides that any defiance or deny on our part will make us bad or disobedient. Where the word LOGIC has gone for a toss. We are practical people and we must apply that pragmatic logic before saying yes or no, if in all capability, we will be able to do that thing with minimal loss of ours, we should give a nod to that, else just for being obedient, we must not continue to be a yes man.
I have seen people suffering from a very common social ailment that is becoming -"people pleasing personality" where being impressive even without proper understanding of same is aim for us, we tend to say that -"we know this or that" we want to imply this to our pals that, whatever you are discussing i will be knowing that, because saying I do not know will make me so small that the laughing space created by you will kill me & thereby slowly slowly we become prisoner of this personality which is quite unhealthy both physically & mentally
People with this YES disorder often have mental break downs as they were quiet or were giving nod at the wrong place, where they might have else given a logical answer with NO, I do not know, or it is tough, i am trying my level best, By not doing so,they have kept much of their anger inside them which is due to extra amount of work they have to do, by saying yes to that work at wrong time, by firstly saying that it will be done & ultimately failing to do so, as that was not realistically possible & a clear & polite NO at start would have settle the scores better.
So, these people often shout at alone, will try to talk to any close one too frequently to tell their condition, sometimes, it leads to fights with in friends or families & addiction to wrong habits/ addictions These people want & indeed need quiet places where they can cry or shout & some concepts of Shout Zones, Bhadaas Cafe & Vipashna Centres have found their more relevance for these people.
But ultimately the word NO has to imbibe into them sooner or later & slowly slowly they need to get their tongues twisted towards bluntness, which might hurt them earlier, but will be better for them in long run,
At last, its all about making choices for won, being strong at self & then stretch to best extent possible in terms of being practical & not hurting yourself. We need to strike a balance between a yes & no as too much inclination on any of side has its own SIDE effects...
Keep liking Yourself. .as any LIKE by OTHERS will not make you less or more Worthy..!!
We just are not able to say "NO" to them, may be as it does not come naturally to us to say this, as we are good good person, but who decides that any defiance or deny on our part will make us bad or disobedient. Where the word LOGIC has gone for a toss. We are practical people and we must apply that pragmatic logic before saying yes or no, if in all capability, we will be able to do that thing with minimal loss of ours, we should give a nod to that, else just for being obedient, we must not continue to be a yes man.
I have seen people suffering from a very common social ailment that is becoming -"people pleasing personality" where being impressive even without proper understanding of same is aim for us, we tend to say that -"we know this or that" we want to imply this to our pals that, whatever you are discussing i will be knowing that, because saying I do not know will make me so small that the laughing space created by you will kill me & thereby slowly slowly we become prisoner of this personality which is quite unhealthy both physically & mentally
People with this YES disorder often have mental break downs as they were quiet or were giving nod at the wrong place, where they might have else given a logical answer with NO, I do not know, or it is tough, i am trying my level best, By not doing so,they have kept much of their anger inside them which is due to extra amount of work they have to do, by saying yes to that work at wrong time, by firstly saying that it will be done & ultimately failing to do so, as that was not realistically possible & a clear & polite NO at start would have settle the scores better.
So, these people often shout at alone, will try to talk to any close one too frequently to tell their condition, sometimes, it leads to fights with in friends or families & addiction to wrong habits/ addictions These people want & indeed need quiet places where they can cry or shout & some concepts of Shout Zones, Bhadaas Cafe & Vipashna Centres have found their more relevance for these people.
But ultimately the word NO has to imbibe into them sooner or later & slowly slowly they need to get their tongues twisted towards bluntness, which might hurt them earlier, but will be better for them in long run,
At last, its all about making choices for won, being strong at self & then stretch to best extent possible in terms of being practical & not hurting yourself. We need to strike a balance between a yes & no as too much inclination on any of side has its own SIDE effects...
Keep liking Yourself. .as any LIKE by OTHERS will not make you less or more Worthy..!!
