YES SIR..!!!

Hey...Anurag..Do clear the mails, Do revert by EOD.. I need this anyhow...Get the team aligned for same....& the monotony never breaks, so do our answers, which are like Yes sir.. will do sir..will definitely get it done sir...all falling right in place for the predator who has invoked a prey in us, who has surrendered himself to being a docile YES MAN...yes, docile the word used for animals with no brains & we have given our each bit to match their levels, this boss- junior above quote is just one off example & it invariably goes with us in many facets of life where our self inertia falls too much to get aligned to outer world, the acceptance they will give us becomes our sole motto to live our lives on happy note. Be it friends, relatives or it can be anyone around, whom we have silently given a status above us
We just are not able to say "NO" to them, may be as it does not come naturally to us to say this, as we are good good person, but who decides that any defiance or deny on our part will make us bad or disobedient. Where the word LOGIC has gone for a toss. We are practical people and we must apply that pragmatic logic before saying yes or no, if in all capability, we will be able to do that thing with minimal loss of ours, we should give a nod to that, else just for being obedient, we must  not continue to be a yes man.
I have seen people suffering from a very common social ailment that is becoming -"people pleasing personality" where being impressive even without proper understanding of same is aim for us, we tend to say that -"we know this or that" we want to imply this to our pals that, whatever you are discussing i will be knowing that, because saying I do not know will make me so small that the laughing space created by you will kill me & thereby slowly slowly we become prisoner of this personality which is quite unhealthy both physically & mentally
People with this YES disorder often have mental break downs as they were quiet or were giving nod at the wrong place, where they might have else given a logical answer with NO, I do not know, or it is tough, i am trying my level best,  By not doing so,they have kept much of their anger inside them which is due to extra amount of work they have to do, by saying yes to that work at wrong time, by firstly saying that it will be done & ultimately failing to do so, as that was not realistically possible & a clear & polite NO at start would have settle the scores better.
So, these people often shout at alone, will try to talk to any close one too frequently to tell their condition, sometimes, it leads to fights with in friends or families & addiction to wrong habits/ addictions  These people want & indeed need quiet places where they can cry or shout & some concepts of Shout Zones, Bhadaas Cafe & Vipashna Centres have found their more relevance for these people.
But ultimately the word NO has to imbibe into them sooner or later & slowly slowly they need to get their tongues twisted towards bluntness, which might hurt them earlier, but will be better for them in long run,
At last, its all about making choices for won, being strong at self & then stretch to best extent possible in terms of being practical & not hurting yourself. We need to strike a balance between a yes  & no as too much inclination on any of side has its own SIDE effects...

Keep liking Yourself. .as any LIKE by OTHERS will not make you less or more Worthy..!!

Let me Breathe..!!!

The alarm has rung & with half an eye open with an angle you are trying to pray, hanging with a hope that whatever you are going to see on clock should be less than Six O clock..but reality disappoints you with Seven,( its the only place where you wants your life to give less, but it gives you badly more), yes people its a sleepy creepy Monday morning & all your Monday blues& bruise have taken a sudden eruption, it is not that all other days you were living a life you dream of, it is just that you had your Sundays as your cut out moments of a week, of a month & of a year. The pain of a moving Sunday is that you feel like it is passing with more than speed of Usain Bolt & the period of hell will soon ring his bell that will be in sync with either of your alarm bell or torturous phone ring reminding you that to catch the next moment of life you have pass through gleam monotony of next six days .

This all prelude was of a fact that happens to the usual job going person & may be with most of us, who do not like their work place or the job or mainly the people whom you are working with. When analysed deeply it is a phenomena that we all are dead walkers at work places & have set targets to get the breather in forms of a Sunday or a Wedding party of friend, some function & mostly to a fantasy of  almost done plan to go somewhere with your friends( which never happens & now you also know the reasons of last moment " NO"  even before making of a plan). These are things which were always there with us from childhood, but never thought hard For Ex, we knew that we will get to play once we come back from school, so  that last period bell was like the best musical symphony that we ever had, The only difference between now & child hood is the certainty of happiness or those moments were near about cent percent, occurring on own &today it has fazed out it to minimum, so that a lot of permutations & combinations have to get together to make a moment come true. 

In that age, we have the best surety of one thing that was " Summer Vacation" , the real Swarg days after the after ten months of murkier  School, where we were bound to play unfazed even in that scorching killing heat waves, we were bound to go to one of our relatives home & living for days & days there, living each minute there making new friends, doing whole rounds of activities & fun, We were eagerly waiting for Holi, Diwali & festivals with not the angle of it being a holiday from school, but from the eyes of what new we will buy this time & whos home we will go this year & we were almost sure of having best of times naturally

Still today, when we look back, we were not knowing that time that - we were making moments of life time to cherish, to discuss, to tease, to laugh & cry. Even today, you meet your any of friends new or more if he is an old one, it is for sure that no one discusses the last Diwali or Holi or last meeting every one discuss about what we did on X diwali that friend or what happened in that tournament match in that vacation & all happy moments & in mid of that whatever we talk about our present is most fill of filth towards job & people.

The little stark difference though on a sad note today is that we have to make some efforts to make moments for our selves & many of the times, we restrain ourselves to push & it all slips away, just end up cursing someone or the other in vain, but in that age those events became cult moments naturally without efforts & those days epic things are only good memories we have now.

To be understanding all this, we may attribute that we have grown old or we have succumbed to our routine jobs, responsibilities , but  hang on..we cannot lose so easily..we have to have a clarity of what makes us happy & sad. Are we still dependent on others for our happiness, have we given our inertia of cheerfulness to others or is the other way round. We need to find out our routes & recipe of happiness. It can be with some friends who have time more than you than you need to push yourself more harder than usual to give them your time. It can be with your family, whom you have neglected till date & have though that...blah blah..how can I enjoy with my family. I see them daily. But for a moment, change the thought process & you might found the right way out of the maze you have been trapped till date. 

Honestly from my experiences, I can say that we need to give an extra inch of effort for self from the tonnes we are already giving it for our crap shot work. We need to give it a try, taking a risk for making something for own that you can look back in coming times & have a reason have your lips stretching unknowingly for a smile, which you have lost now.

The results will come sure & even then if it is difficult & you are not getting it,  try finding happiness on alone, yes that is a rare feat to achieve, a commodity unknown to many, but happiness on own also exist, it can come from small small things that might come naturally to you or you need to develop it along with time. But time is always there with us, no matter the age, no matter the place & with all that s happening around you.

Keep these things in mind & have the repeat mode on.. The beat of your life will have more melodies than melodrama,

Cheers!!!